How do you wish he would ‘be’ with you in order for you to feel cherished and loved and deeply fulfilled in your relationship?
In an ideal world, what does your ‘laundry list’ of requirements for that perfect partner look like?
Each of us will have our own unique list. And I’m guessing yours may contain some or all of the following characteristics:
Kind; loving; thoughtful; caring; fun; sensitive; honest; reliable; wicked sense of humour; family man; intelligent; in good shape; attractive; well groomed; driven; focused; self-aware; spiritual; sexy; confident; comfortable in own skin; zest for life; curious; strong work ethic; grounded; playful; passionate; successful; sociable; compassionate; emotionally mature; shows vulnerability; healthy self-esteem.
Take a few moments right now to write your own list.
I’ll wait. 🙂
Now, read through your list and answer these questions:
Are YOU embodying all of those traits that you value most in a partner?
Are YOU bringing all of those qualities to your relationship right now?
Are You ‘being’ the kind of romantic partner you desire most?
Would you want YOU?
If not, where are the gaps?
What are you expecting from your partner that you’re not giving to yourself first, and not bringing to the relationship?
Here’s What I Know
It all starts with loving ourselves.
When we don’t love ourselves enough, we seek it from other people.
We seek continuous reassurance that we are lovable and worthy.
But it will never be enough.
Because we can only love others, and have them love us back, to the extent that we love ourselves.
It can’t be any other way.
When you love yourself enough, you can take risks in your relationship.
You can risk being vulnerable.
You can risk being rejected.
You can risk making a fool of yourself.
You can risk having your heart broken.
You can risk being the kind of romantic partner you most desire.
You can risk giving the kind of love you most want to receive, with no guarantees.
You can risk the possibility of creating the kind of love you dream of in your marriage.
You can risk it because you’re already receiving it. From yourself.
Do you love yourself enough to risk it?
Ready to Risk Loving Yourself First?
If you’ve identified a gap between the kind of partner you dream of and the kind of partner you’re currently being in your marriage, get in touch and request a free, confidential, 30 minute Mini Clarity Session.
Will you risk it?
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