Waiting doesn’t make it better.
Wondering if you should stay or go?
Not sure you can stay in a life and a marriage where you don’t feel heard, don’t feel seen or even allowed to be you?
Afraid of saying the wrong thing? Sick of walking on eggshells?
Exhausted from keeping the peace – because it seems like the easiest option? Except it’s sucking the life out of you.
I get it.
For many years, I lived it.
On the outside my life looked good. Long marriage. Three healthy kids. Two incomes. One lovely family home. I was a savvy professional, a busy wife and mother. And I was great at taking care of everyone else. The impression was I had it all together.
But inside it was a different story.
I was frustrated and felt trapped in a life and a marriage I didn’t love. I had a feeling my life could be so much more, but I didn’t have a clue what ‘more’ even looked like. And I felt guilty and selfish for wanting it.
I’m Julie Marah and I know what it’s like to be miserable and, at the same time,
worried sick about possibly tearing your family apart and putting yourself first.
But let me tell you a secret: It’s NOT about whether you stay in your marriage or leave.
It’s not even about your relationship with your husband.
This is about you not knowing who you are anymore, let alone what you want.
The person you most need to reconnect with is YOU.
Every day, I help smart successful 40+ women like you explore what your ‘right’ life looks like, so you can make it your reality. I help you figure out who you are today and what you actually want now so you can make confident, empowered choices that allow you to live true to yourself.
Together, we create a plan so you can learn how to reconnect with yourself, your thoughts and feelings, and build a life you love.
What I know for sure is that you can reconnect with the brilliant, amazing woman inside of you. And you can recreate your life to reflect that woman and the life you most want today.
You just need to cultivate a relationship with her, the woman with the hopes, dreams, goals and aspirations. The one who is excited about life and all it has to offer. The ‘You’ who wants to show up in the driver’s seat of your own life.
It takes real courage to admit you’re no longer willing to tolerate the status quo. And it’s bloody scary.
That’s why having a supportive professional at your side is not just invaluable – it’s essential. This is the rest of your life we’re talking about.
If you’re ready to get reacquainted with the woman you are today and find out what she truly wants – and then give yourself permission to create it, let’s talk.
This is about recognising that you are allowed to have a voice and a choice.
And it’s about understanding we all deserve a happy life, living true to ourselves – however that looks. And never apologising for our choices.
Because being who you truly are, without apology, is THE key to living the happy, fulfilling life you desire and deserve.
Other people won’t always like or approve of your choices. But they don’t have to. They’re not you. The only person who has to like and approve of your choices is you.
There is so much more for you to do. More for you to be. More life for you to live.
You’re a brilliant, amazing woman with so much more to give. A woman who hasn’t reached her potential yet.
The thing is, you’re no longer the woman you were when you first married, built your career and had kids. And in the busyness of that life, you’ve lost connection to the ‘you’ that you’ve become.
Less than a year after my dad died, I left my corporate job of 22 years – and my marriage of 22 years. And I became a life coach.
I craved a more meaningful, purposeful life that would allow me to express who I am and live true to myself. And I wanted to help other women who felt like me to do the same.
Those were not easy decisions. They were life-changing and had a huge impact on the people I loved and cared about the most. I didn’t take them lightly. But I knew, in my heart, they were the right decisions.
Of course there were times I questioned my choices. And my sanity. But I wouldn’t change a thing.
My life now has meaning and purpose. And truth.
For me, living true to myself resulted in the end of my marriage. It may be the same for you, and it may not. It’s entirely possible to live true to yourself in your marriage, even if it doesn’t feel that way now, if that is what you truly want.
I’m not invested in you staying in your marriage. And I’m not invested in you leaving. What I am fully invested in is you having the tools and awareness to create your right life. I’m invested in your ability to make confident, empowered choices. Choices free of blame, guilt and resentment. Choices that you will not apologise for.
The ultimate outcome of my story is that I am no longer pretend happy. This time it’s for real.
You deserve the same. And you don’t have to do it alone.
Check out my services to find out more.