How to Survive Christmas with your Sanity Intact! – Part 2

“All I Want for Christmas is…….?” What do you want this Christmas? No, I don’t mean those sparkly shoes with the killer heels you’ve got your eye on, or that expensive handbag you’re coveting (though you may want those things too of course!) What do you really want? I mean, what kind of Christmas do you […]

How to Survive Christmas with your Sanity Intact! – Part 1

If you’ve been a reader of my blog for any length of time, you may know I share a series of articles at this time of year, written especially to help you navigate and survive Christmas with your sanity intact! I always receive such great feedback on this series that it has now become an annual […]

Your Most Precious Resource

As women we have a really hard time putting ourselves first. We believe doing so makes us selfish, self-centred – basically, a complete bitch who cares about nothing and nobody but ourselves. And it’s not just us who believes this. In some relationships, our husbands believe it too. And they take every opportunity to remind us of […]

Mind Your Own Business

I’ve noticed a common theme during my client conversations lately. And I must admit it’s something I’m guilty of myself at times. To put it bluntly – we spend far too much of our lives poking our noses into other people’s business, in particular our husbands (also our kids – but that’s a whole other blog post!) We believe we […]

Is it Selfish to Put Your Own Happiness First?

This is the question every woman struggling in an unhappy marriage asks herself. It’s the dilemma we wrestle with as we battle within ourselves to figure out a way forward that will bring us some peace. We have this internal conflict because we’ve been raised with the belief that the answer to this question is Yes. We believe […]

That Letter I Wrote to my Future Self

Just over a year ago I attended a one day event as part of a coaching programme I had invested in for my business and personal growth. About half way into the day, the coach invited us to write a letter to ourselves, dated exactly one year into the future. In the letter we were to acknowledge […]

Your Worth is Already Proven

So many of us measure our worth as individuals according to external factors. Against how ‘successful’ we judge ourselves to be compared to others. Or how much we’ve achieved in our professional lives. How many friends we have and how popular we are. How much money we earn or believe we’re capable of making. Some of […]

Why Should I Get Marriage Help When HE’S the Problem!?

A comment I regularly hear from women considering working with me is some variation of: “Why should I be the one to get help for our marriage when HE is the problem!” “My husband is just so: Difficult to live with/selfish/boring/bad tempered/unappreciative/ impossible to talk to/fill-in-the-blank” they say. “Why should I be the one to […]

When Being True to Yourself is Hard

Back at the beginning of my ‘Wife Coaching’ journey, I had the privilege of supporting a lovely lady (actually, all my clients are lovely – that’s the truth!) Jackie (not her real name) was a strong, vibrant, whip-smart woman with so much to offer. In the few short months we worked together she made amazing progress. By the end […]

Giving Up on Your Marriage vs Letting Go

The topic of how to know when you’ve tried hard enough to make your marriage work, and when it’s okay to stop trying, is a regular theme in my work with clients. What I know for sure is that no responsible person ever contemplates divorce lightly. From my own personal experience, and the experiences of the […]