Why Should I Get Marriage Help When HE’S the Problem!?

A comment I regularly hear from women considering working with me is some variation of: “Why should I be the one to get help for our marriage when HE is the problem!” “My husband is just so: Difficult to live with/selfish/boring/bad tempered/unappreciative/ impossible to talk to/fill-in-the-blank” they say. “Why should I be the one to […]

Giving Up on Your Marriage vs Letting Go

The topic of how to know when you’ve tried hard enough to make your marriage work, and when it’s okay to stop trying, is a regular theme in my work with clients. What I know for sure is that no responsible person ever contemplates divorce lightly. From my own personal experience, and the experiences of the […]

Do you Take Responsibility for your Husband’s Feelings?

As women and mothers we have a nurturing side that means we naturally want to take care of the people we love and care about. In our lives and marriages, our own wants, needs, dreams and desires often get relegated to the bottom of the pile. Over time, our family’s happiness and emotional wellbeing begins to take […]

Are You Waiting for Permission to Leave Your Husband?

Most of the clients who approach me want my support because they are feeling truly stuck. They don’t know whether they want to stay in their marriages or leave. Through our work together in Empowered Choices, Empowered Woman Programme,  they gain the clarity they crave – and a whole lot more besides. Sometimes I work with clients who […]

Financial Responsibility in Your Life and Marriage

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the concept of taking 100% responsibility for our own lives and the results we create. It got me reflecting on what ‘taking complete responsibility’ actually means. And what it looks like. Also some of the ways we resist doing this, and even sabotage our own efforts to do so. For example, we may […]

Uncertainty – The Fuel for an Amazing Life?

“Uncertainty is the fuel for an amazing life.” I read that quote a few days ago. At a time when I was feeling pretty uncertain about quite a few things – ha! One thing is certain. We will all face, and continue to face, the discomfort of uncertainty at various points throughout our lives. We […]

Participate in Your Own Rescue

I heard the above expression in a business-related podcast* recently. And it really struck a chord with me. What does ‘participating in your own rescue’ actually mean? We’ve all heard the expression: ‘Nobody is coming to save you. You have to save yourself.’ I completely agree. If there’s something in our lives we’re not happy with, we […]

Fear is the Reason we need Courage (+5 Steps to Build it)

Did you know fear is the reason we need courage? Courage doesn’t exist without fear. Courage is the character trait we must develop in order to overcome fear. The only way we can build courage is by exposing ourselves to fear. We can’t passively build it while sitting on the sofa watching TV. Not Building […]

What’s Your Favourite Flavour of Sh*t Sandwich?!

Strange question? You may be wondering: ‘What’s this woman on about..? My favourite flavour of shit sandwich – what kind of question is THAT?!’ I have to confess that, while I absolutely love it, the question didn’t originate from me. It’s from a great article by Mark Manson* that poses a number of unusual questions to help you find […]

Did your Valentine play by the ‘Rule Book?’

Did you have a Happy Valentine’s Day! How was it for you? Are you feeling the lurrrrve? Did your Valentine shower you with hearts and flowers and words of undying love on the most romantic day of the year? Or was it all a bit of a ‘Larry Let Down’? February 14th is one of those days […]