Stop Waiting

Stop. Waiting.I have noticed something about myself lately.

I’ve been waiting.

Waiting to decide where to go with my business.

Waiting for something to happen in my personal life.

Waiting for the right time to get divorced.

Waiting for inspiration. Motivation. An invitation.

Waiting for a sign I’m on the right path.

Waiting to decide what to do next in my life.

Waiting. Waiting. Waiting.

We spend incessant amounts of time checking our smart phones.

Checking email. Checking Facebook.

As if our online world is suddenly going to provide that elusive ‘aha.’

As if suddenly we will know what to do.

And as if that knowing will give us permission to feel excited about our lives.

Looking Outward

Here’s what I’ve noticed about all the waiting.

It causes us to feel unsettled. Uncertain. Bored even.

It’s outwardly focused.

It’s passive.

It places responsibility outside of ourselves.

It places our future in the hands of circumstances and other people. Things we have zero control over.

It absolves us of the job of creating what we want in our lives.

So we wait for the perfect opportunity to land in our laps.

We wait for our husbands to stop being who they are and morph into someone else.

We wait for the perfect body.

We wait for permission.

We wait for our job or our relationship or our family to validate us.

To tell us we are enough.

To approve of us.

We wait for happiness to find us.

And Then

The result of all that waiting?

It renders us powerless.

It stops us from getting on with the job of creating our best lives.

It turns us into victims of circumstance.

And one day we’ll wake up and realise we’ve spent our one entire, precious life waiting.

The Alternative

Here’s what I’ve decided:

Fuck waiting.

I’m done with it.

It’s time to start creating.

The Risks

Is everything we create and reach for going to turn out rainbows and butterflies?


We’re going to fail. Again and again.

We’re going to realise that the job/relationship/friendship/business we poured our hearts and souls into isn’t everything we thought it would be.

We’re going to feel let down. Disappointed. Downhearted.

We’re going to risk breaking our own hearts.

We’re going to feel like we’ve taken one step forward and two steps back.

We’re going to make choices other people may not agree with or approve of.

We’re going to be tested and challenged and criticised.

We’re going to have to leave the safety of our comfort zones.

Not just once. But repeatedly.

The Rewards

It takes courage to stop waiting.

It takes trust and faith and belief in ourselves.

Trust and faith and belief we’ll have to build during the process of creating.

Here’s why it’s worth it:

We get to take our power back.

We get to decide who we want to be and what we want for ourselves.

We get to evolve into the next best version of who we really are.

We get to give ourselves permission to create our best lives – without apology.

We get to stop waiting for someone else to save us.

We get to save ourselves.

We get to be the hero of our own story.

Ready to Stop Waiting for Change in Your Life and Marriage?

So, please.

Join me.

Stop waiting.

Start creating.

The first step?


It’s time.

Your time. My time.

Let’s do it.

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  1. Yes! Fuck waiting! Yes! I have been doing this too. I see it. When I read this, I was shaking my head – yes, yes, yes. And I am read to start creating too! Thanks for this post – it’s the inspiration and kick in the butt I needed 🙂

    • Thank you Deb – reading your comment made me laugh out loud! So glad it resonated with you – it was the kick in the butt I needed too! 🙂 Here’s to creating!

  2. Waiting for someone else to change is a waste of your precious life. I’m working on my change. And yes it takes courage. Lots of it. Well said Julie.

    • Thank you Gill. You certainly do have courage and I know how hard you are working to create your life on purpose. x

  3. Excellent article Julie …. I don’t think we realise how much we wait and how much time we waste doing it … It’s a good reminder to get going and stop procrastinating !!!!

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