I had a lightbulb moment a while back.
You know, one of those realisations that seems so obvious.
Except it wasn’t, until that very moment.
It was this: I had been waiting.
- To decide where to go next with my work
- For something to happen in my personal life
- For the right time to get divorced
- For inspiration. Motivation. An invitation
- For a sign I’m on the right path
- To decide what next in my life
Waiting. Waiting. Waiting.
I know I’m not the only one.
And while we do all that waiting, there are the distractions.
Work. Kids. Home. Shopping. Busyness. Drama.
One of the ways we distract ourselves is by spending incessant amounts of time checking our smartphones.
As if our online world is suddenly going to provide that elusive ‘aha.’
As if suddenly we will know what to do.
And as if that knowing will give us permission to feel excited about our lives.
Here’s what I noticed about all that waiting.
It causes us to feel unsettled. Uncertain. Bored even.
It’s outwardly focused.
It places responsibility outside of ourselves.
It places our future in the hands of circumstances and other people.
Things we have zero control over.
It absolves us of the job of creating what we want in our lives.
So we wait for the perfect opportunity to land in our laps.
We wait for our husbands to stop being who they are, and morph into someone we want to be with.
We wait for the perfect body.
We wait until we’re ready.
We wait for our job or our relationship or our family to validate us.
To tell us we are enough.
To approve of us.
We wait for happiness to find us.
The result of all that waiting?
It renders us powerless.
It stops us from getting on with the job of creating our best lives.
It turns us into victims of circumstance.
Until one day we wake up and realise we’ve wasted our one entire, precious life waiting.
Here’s what I decided in that aha moment:
I’m done with it.
It was time to start creating.
And so I did.
I created a new group coaching programme.
I created amazing new 1:1 clients and helped them start creating their right lives.
I created a corporate coaching arm to my business.
I created a divorce (after seven years of waiting!)
I created a wonderful new relationship.
I created memories in Dorset, Cornwall, Spain, New York, France and Italy.
I’m still creating.
I don’t plan to stop.
Did everything and will everything I create turn out rainbows and butterflies?
Of course not.
I created a lot of what I didn’t want on the way to what I did ( and will continue to do so.)
That’s the reality for all of us.
We’re going to stumble and fall and fail along the way.
Again and again.
Sometimes we’re going to realise the job/relationship/friendship/business we poured our hearts and souls into isn’t everything we thought it would be.
We’re going to feel let down. Disappointed. Downhearted.
We’re going to risk breaking our own hearts.
We’re going to feel like we’ve taken one step forward and two steps back.
We’re going to make choices other people may not agree with or approve of.
We’re going to be tested and challenged and criticised.
We’re going to have to leave the safety of our comfort zones.
Not just once.
Over and over again.
It takes courage to stop waiting.
It takes trust and faith and belief in ourselves.
Trust and faith and belief we have to build during the process of creating.
We’ll be waiting forever if we wait for the confidence and self-belief to arrive before we get started.
We have to start before we’re ready.
Why it’s Worth it:
We get to decide who we want to be and what we want for ourselves.
We get to take our power back.
We get to evolve into the next best version of who we really are.
We get to give ourselves permission to create our best lives – without apology.
We get to stop waiting for someone else to save us.
We get to save ourselves.
We get to participate in our own rescue.
So, please. Join me.
The first step?
Let’s do this.
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