What if There are No Wrong Decisions?

A question. What if there really are no ‘wrong’ decisions? When trying to make important choices, so often we find ourselves constantly swinging between two seemingly opposing options. Whether it’s: Should I stay in my marriage or should I leave? Should I stay in my current job or find a more fulfilling one? Should I start […]

No Longer Willing to be THAT Woman

Transformation and change. That’s ultimately what my clients are seeking when they make the decision to work with me. They don’t use those words to describe what they want my help with, of course. Instead, they talk about the challenging circumstances they’re wrestling with in their marriages. The stuckness, the frustration, the fear, the sadness, the […]

Did your Valentine play by the ‘Rule Book?’

Did you have a Happy Valentine’s Day! How was it for you? Are you feeling the lurrrrve? Did your Valentine shower you with hearts and flowers and words of undying love on the most romantic day of the year? Or was it all a bit of a ‘Larry Let Down’? February 14th is one of those days […]

The First Steps to Improving Your Marriage

In my work I talk a lot about women making empowered choices about the future of their marriages, however that looks for them. I defend any woman’s right to leave an unhappy marriage, as long as it’s done from a place of self-responsibility, and not from blame and victim mentality. I come into contact with […]

Reached the End of your Tether in your Marriage?

Have you reached your ‘something’s gotta give’ moment in your marriage? That point where you just know you can’t tolerate the status quo a moment longer? You know something’s got to change. But you’re confused and conflicted about the best way forward. Should you stay in your marriage and try to make things better (even […]

8th January – Divorce Day?

Depending on where you are in the world, you may have seen in the media that today has been dubbed: ‘Divorce Day.’ Apparently, the first Monday of the first full working week of January is the busiest day of the year for divorce lawyers, with their phones ringing off the hook. It’s not hard to […]

Your Most Precious Resource

As women we have a really hard time putting ourselves first. We believe doing so makes us selfish, self-centred – basically, a complete bitch who cares about nothing and nobody but ourselves. And it’s not just us who believes this. In some relationships, our husbands believe it too. And they take every opportunity to remind us of […]

Mind Your Own Business

I’ve noticed a common theme during my client conversations lately. And I must admit it’s something I’m guilty of myself at times. To put it bluntly – we spend far too much of our lives poking our noses into other people’s business, in particular our husbands (also our kids – but that’s a whole other blog post!) We believe we […]

Is it Selfish to Put Your Own Happiness First?

This is the question every woman struggling in an unhappy marriage asks herself. It’s the dilemma we wrestle with as we battle within ourselves to figure out a way forward that will bring us some peace. We have this internal conflict because we’ve been raised with the belief that the answer to this question is Yes. We believe […]

That Letter I Wrote to my Future Self

Just over a year ago I attended a one day event as part of a coaching programme I had invested in for my business and personal growth. About half way into the day, the coach invited us to write a letter to ourselves, dated exactly one year into the future. In the letter we were to acknowledge […]