The two types of discomfort

“Discomfort is the currency for achieving our goals and aspirations.” I’ve heard a version of this quote from at least two of my teachers/mentors. I’ve experienced the truth of it in my own life, over and over again – and, still my brain wants to resist it. I explain to every new client that they’re going to experience discomfort. […]

The truth about coaching no one tells you

Just over a decade ago, at age 44, I made the radical decision to change careers and retrain as a life coach, for one simple reason. Coaching had changed my life. I wanted more of it – and not just for myself. I wanted to offer it to like-minded women who felt the way I […]

This is the world I want to help create

I see so many brilliant women holding themselves back with their own self-image, based on outdated beliefs. Like a computer that hasn’t updated its software in decades, they’re running on obsolete programming that’s not just outdated – it was never true to begin with! Despite the significant success my client Jill* had achieved in her life […]

Why we want more confidence and self-belief

I coached a lovely client last week about the next steps she wants to take in her career. She had lots of fear and self-doubt around stepping up and being more visible. She was questioning her ability to help her clients. She’d taken a short break from work to deal with a stressful family situation […]

When the body says No

Do you believe in the interconnectedness of our minds and bodies? The idea that our physical health is intimately connected with our emotional wellbeing, and vice versa? I’ve always had the sense this is true, but honestly never considered it too deeply. Until recently. Not long into COVID lockdown(!), I received an unexpected and unwelcome medical diagnosis that required urgentish surgery […]

Do you judge your negative emotions?

Last week I finally got round to updating my personal Facebook profile pic. (The previous one was only five years out of date!) One of my lovely friends commented and said I look really happy. She’s right, I am really happy in this photo, and it shows. It was taken on holiday with my partner in […]

The Secret to Life no one ever told us about

What if the unhelpful beliefs you adopted about yourself in your formative years, and have carried within you ever since, ~ that who you are is somehow not enough ~ were never, ever true? What if they were simply, and only ever, a form of self-protection? What if forming those kinds of early beliefs is […]

I Refused to Abandon Myself

Have you ever had the experience of feeling deeply misunderstood by someone you truly love and care about? And been tempted to abandon yourself and your own needs, in order to belong? If so, my heart goes out to you. Because you know first hand how utterly shite it feels! It happened to me recently… I spoke up […]

Join me at Cambridge University (Bring your Imposter!)

Do you harbour the secret belief that you’re not as good as others perceive you to be? Do you fear that, any minute now, you’re going to be found out and exposed as the fraud you know yourself to be? Perhaps you believe the success you’ve achieved in your life and career has been a fluke, and clearly the result of luck, not intellect, hard work or talent. If so, you’re […]

Are You Stuck Between Who You Are Now And Who You Want To Be?

The Gap between Who you are now and Who you’re Becoming… Navigating the ‘Messy Middle’ Change comes in all shapes and sizes. Sometimes welcome… sometimes not so much. If there’s one certainty in life we can all count on, it’s that change will happen! The kinds of change I’m talking about can be categorised as […]