When Being True to Yourself is Hard

Back at the beginning of my ‘Wife Coaching’ journey, I had the privilege of supporting a lovely lady (actually, all my clients are lovely – that’s the truth!) Jackie (not her real name) was a strong, vibrant, whip-smart woman with so much to offer. In the few short months we worked together she made amazing progress. By the end […]

Giving Up on Your Marriage vs Letting Go

The topic of how to know when you’ve tried hard enough to make your marriage work, and when it’s okay to stop trying, is a regular theme in my work with clients. What I know for sure is that no responsible person ever contemplates divorce lightly. From my own personal experience, and the experiences of the […]

Do you Take Responsibility for your Husband’s Feelings?

As women and mothers we have a nurturing side that means we naturally want to take care of the people we love and care about. In our lives and marriages, our own wants, needs, dreams and desires often get relegated to the bottom of the pile. Over time, our family’s happiness and emotional wellbeing begins to take […]

Are You Waiting for Permission to Leave Your Husband?

Most of the clients who approach me want my support because they are feeling truly stuck. They don’t know whether they want to stay in their marriages or leave. Through our work together in Empowered Choices, Empowered Woman Programme,  they gain the clarity they crave – and a whole lot more besides. Sometimes I work with clients who […]

Financial Responsibility in Your Life and Marriage

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the concept of taking 100% responsibility for our own lives and the results we create. It got me reflecting on what ‘taking complete responsibility’ actually means. And what it looks like. Also some of the ways we resist doing this, and even sabotage our own efforts to do so. For example, we may […]

Uncertainty – The Fuel for an Amazing Life?

“Uncertainty is the fuel for an amazing life.” I read that quote a few days ago. At a time when I was feeling pretty uncertain about quite a few things – ha! One thing is certain. We will all face, and continue to face, the discomfort of uncertainty at various points throughout our lives. We […]

Fear is the Reason we need Courage (+5 Steps to Build it)

Did you know fear is the reason we need courage? Courage doesn’t exist without fear. Courage is the character trait we must develop in order to overcome fear. The only way we can build courage is by exposing ourselves to fear. We can’t passively build it while sitting on the sofa watching TV. Not Building […]

What’s Your Favourite Flavour of Sh*t Sandwich?!

Strange question? You may be wondering: ‘What’s this woman on about..? My favourite flavour of shit sandwich – what kind of question is THAT?!’ I have to confess that, while I absolutely love it, the question didn’t originate from me. It’s from a great article by Mark Manson* that poses a number of unusual questions to help you find […]

Are You the Kind of Romantic Partner You Seek?

What are the qualities and attributes you seek in your romantic partner, aka your husband? How do you wish he would ‘be’ with you in order for you to feel cherished and loved and deeply fulfilled in your relationship? In an ideal world, what does your ‘laundry list’ of requirements for that perfect partner look […]

The REAL Reason Your Husband’s Criticism Hurts You

Do your attempts to communicate with your husband often descend into a ‘blame game?’ You start out with the best intentions of having a grown up, mature conversation, but your valiant efforts soon dissolve into a childish tit-for-tat. No sooner have you broached the topic you want to discuss when he begins to criticise you, perhaps for the things you ‘always’ or ‘never’ do. […]