Strange question? You may be wondering:
‘What’s this woman on about..?
My favourite flavour of shit sandwich –
what kind of question is THAT?!’
I have to confess that, while I absolutely love it, the question didn’t originate from me.
It’s from a great article by Mark Manson* that poses a number of unusual questions to help you find your life purpose (link below – well worth a read.)
I’ve reflected on this question a lot lately, and the truth behind it. And I’ve realised it’s completely relevant to us all, not just to those struggling to find their purpose.
The reality is, we are all going to be served our own personal ‘shit sandwiches’ during the course of our lives – multiple times.
By this, I mean our own unique blend of challenges, problems, obstacles,
difficult people, shit situations, etc.
To quote the author:
“Everything sucks, some of the time.”
He goes on to say:
“Everything involves sacrifice. Everything includes some sort of cost. Nothing is pleasurable or uplifting all of the time. So the question becomes:
What struggle or sacrifice are you willing to tolerate? Ultimately, what determines our ability to stick with something we care about is our ability to handle the rough patches and ride out the inevitable rotten days.”
A Personal Story
As I shared in my last Newsletter to my subscribers: Being More Real in 2017,** I’ve had my fair share of shit, or ‘shite’ as I like to call it, to deal with in the last year (and beyond.)
My life did not suddenly become all rainbows and butterflies when I made the decision to leave my marriage seven years ago. Some of the challenges and obstacles I’ve faced, and continue to face, are huge.
And there are no easy answers to resolving them. They are an ongoing source of concern and worry for me.
Hence, I am now dealing with a completely different set of problems to the problems I faced in my marriage. So, you could say, I swapped one flavour of shit sandwich for another.
And yet. I wouldn’t change a thing.
Perhaps my kids would have been less negatively affected if I had stayed married to their father and done a stellar job of hiding my discontent and unhappiness. Perhaps not.
But it was not a price I was willing to pay.
My life today is infinitely better than it was when I was married.
The No.1 reason is because I am now living true to myself.
I am being who I am in my life. I am no longer pretending to be happy in a marriage I was not and could not be happy in.
In making that hugely difficult decision, I gave myself, and the world, the message that I and my happiness mattered.
I took responsibility for creating a life I could be happy in.
Even though I had no clue what that life looked like. Even though I was completely terrified about the future and how I would survive financially and emotionally. I just knew I could no longer tolerate the status quo.
I had to trust my inner wisdom. The small voice that told me I would find my way and that it would all work out. I’m so glad I did.
My life now is most definitely my favourite flavour of shit sandwich.
My question to you today is: What is yours?
If you’d like to explore your personal answer to the above question, see below.
Important Note: Please don’t misunderstand me. I am in no way suggesting you would be happier if you left your marriage. I can’t possibly know that.
My decision was completely personal to me and one I did not make lightly and without a lot of ‘self’ work and reflection.
It is entirely possible you may be able to transform your life and relationship from within your marriage. It is possible you may be able to live true to yourself in your current relationship.
Many of my clients have achieved this. And I wholeheartedly recommend that you make every effort to explore this option before making any decision to leave.
I help my clients achieve this clarity through my Empowered Choices, Empowered Woman Programme.
Link to Article*
Here is the link to the full article titled that inspired this post:
Mark Manson: 7 Strange Questions to Help You Find Your Life Purpose. www.markmanson.net/life-purpose
What Sh*t Sandwich Do You Want to Choose?
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